Being Nobody and Somebody too (just your typical rant)

Posted: December 29, 2006 in Rants

I’m nobody! Who are you?
Are you nobody, too?
Then there’s a pair of us — don’t tell!
They’d banish us, you know.
How dreary to be somebody!
How public, like a frog
To tell your name the livelong day
To an admiring bog!


-Emily Dickinson

the bottom line is we are all alone. even though we’re constantly around people, we are still alone. nobody can listen to our own thoughts better than ourselves. nobody can love us better than ourselves. and nobody can hate us better than ourselves.

yet, we still crave for company. john donne maybe right in saying “no man is an island” because the paradox of our individual existence rests also on the fact that we belong to a community of individuals too. and that we, as human beings, also desire for validation, attention and support from people like us.

despite belonging to a community, we are still alone if we pare our existence down to the barest details.

sometimes, the sad thing is that more often than not, we give so much of ourselves to other people, only to realize in the end that we have already lost ourselves in the process. for me, it’s basically because we are conditioned to believe that in the selfless concept of giving, of sharing. usually, we hail acts of altruism, but we often forget to praise acts of self-preservation.

you listen to your friends when they’re down and depressed because of the plain and simple reason that you are a friend. and that’s what friends do–they listen and give support. but then, when the time comes when you need an ear, there’s always a possibility that your friend won’t be there to listen. how would you feel? the christian and humane thing to do is let it go. don’t rant about it because it would be selfish to do so.

pero, it is unnerving. it IS even depressing to realize that you can’t count on other people, friends in particular, most of the time because they are after all, people who have interests, desires and lives too.

sa kagamay sa kalibutan karun ug sa kadaghan sa tawo na pwede nimu kaistorya, ang kamatuoran naghigda dinha gihapon sa imung kasingkasing. ikaw ra gihapun ang may katungod ug mas naay hibalo nga maminaw sa imung mga huna-huna, mga kahingawa, mga kasakit. ikaw gihapun ang naay pasensya nga maminaw sa imung mga kaguol ug mga pangutana nga gatuyok-tuyok sa imung ulo. ikaw ra gihapun.

indeed, it is time to stop, put on your headphones, and listen to yourself. after all, nobody listens better than you anyway.

if donne was right in affirming that every “man is a piece of a continent” (i’ll just discount the fact that he forgot to mention woman), ayn rand is also right in saying that “selfishness is a virtue.” sometimes, what is truly humane is the ability to be aware of oneself more than anything else.

  1. sam says:

    In fact, no one will ever know what we our thoughts are. What we tell is our interpretation of it. What other hear is their interpretation of it. It goes through two filters to reach from mind to another… how accurate can that be? Even sometimes, even ourselves are not in the right mind to see our thoughts. 😉

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